To build up a friendship that is on an equal footing you would take time to get to know the person or people you are building the relationship with. You would talk with them and probably get to know intimate details about their lives. You may have similar interests that help make communication easier as you have a common ground.
Within a school setting you have a professional role so it is essential that you build strong relationships with children you work with. Building these relationships is not an easy task nor is instant. Thought and effort will have to be put in, in order to build and maintain the relationship with the children. In the long run, this effort will be worthwhile because ...view middle of the document...
If you can show the child under your care that you are punctual and will be there when you say you will be then this will help build the relationship.
Understanding what children or young people enjoy outside school and getting to know their interests can be helpful. It gives you the opportunity to engage in conversation with the child or young person whilst they are relaxed and this shows the child that you are approachable and they are more likely to build up a relationship with you.
Effective relationships are also helped by effective communication. This doesn’t mean just listening, but also giving clear suitable and wherever possible clear cut instructions or messages. Even speaking clearly and not mumbling when unsure will help.
Another way in which you can build and maintain effective relationships is by trying to understand the child, by having a positive attitude e.g. by trying to see the good in each child even if they have behavioural issues. (It is the behaviour that is not liked, not the child.) The child or young person must be able to retain their sense of worth and feel that they can still work with you after a telling off or sanction that they might have been given. You need to be consistent. Whenever you can be caring and encourage the young person to develop the things they are good at and show their personal qualities where they can.
The adults that you are most likely to...