Summary of Hooked: New Science on how Casual Sex is Affecting our Children
The purpose of this paper is to review Joe McIlhaney and Freda McKissicâ€™s book Hooked: New Science on How Casual Sex is Affecting Our Children. The book was published by Northfield Publishing in 2008. The authors describes how the brain is the most important sexual organ and provide scientific proof that allow not only brain activity to be viewed, but also how and when three chemicals (dopamine, oxytocin and vasopressin) are released and how these chemicals affect sexual behavior. â€œBreakthroughs in the burgeoning ...view middle of the document...
Sex as defined in Websterâ€™s dictionary is â€œany physical contact in which people touch each otherâ€™s bodies, kiss each other, and any physical activity that is related to and often includes sexual intercourseâ€. By this definition adolescents are having â€œsexâ€ at a very early age. And when I reflect on this I am realizing that my twelve year old son is already having â€œsexâ€. Though no intercourse has occurred it is still disturbing to know. As I think back, I was probably a little older than him when I had my first kiss. I was scared out of my mind and when it was all said and done there was no feeling of excitement. Where was my dopamine? All of my friends are talking about â€œkissing and touchingâ€ as though it was the best thing on earth. But for me it happened and then it was over. No feelings of wanting it to happen again. By the time I actually had intercourse for the first time I was a freshman in college. It was an exciting feeling not to be a virgin anymore but there still was no great feelings of wanting to do it again. There was no feeling of closeness or trust as described in the book. I am left wondering how to explain these chemicals and the reactions that occur as a result of them being released since I did not have this reaction with my initial sexual encounter or with initial intercourse. As a mother raising a daughter I feel I am a little more prepared to deal with relationship issues she may encounter. With this book and the Bible I hope to be able to instill a healthy understanding of relationships, sex, and marriage with both of my kids. They need to know that what they are seeing on TV and hearing in the music on the radio is not what God intended. Sex is a powerful thing and if they are not careful they can end up hurt or with a sexually transmitted disease. I want my son to know that women are to be treasured and he should share his treasure with his wife.