《英语写作V》作业论文 2010级英语一班 王烨姝 20103979
Blossom with Comparison
Comparing oneself with others is a secret mind game that everyone likes to play, wants to win, but hesitates to admit. It is actually a routine that everyone typically follows: we compare what others wear daily, how much living expenses others’ parents supply monthly, and whether others’ GPA are higher annually. Since this is an inevitable process, why not make this way of thinking a rewarding one? For my part, comparing ourselves with others could be a sound approach towards self-recognition, gratification, and social harmony, if we play this secret but not wicked game right.
Making comparison is a beneficial way of self-reflection through which we are given the chance to progress steadily and continuously. “Among any three people walking, I will always find something to learn for sure. Their good qualities ...view middle of the document...
Downward comparison, however, may enjoy even more popularity since it gives people contentment. Helen Kelley once cried for not having shoes to wear, until she saw the one who don’t have feet. This is a familiar refrain, but it makes practical sense. We are now living under tremendous pressure and in a world with cut-throat competition. Those with reserved nature are particularly vulnerable to inferiority complex when they constantly compare themselves with others in an upward way. Instead of shutting the door to and making no connect with the outside world, they are expected to make some downward comparison: to count their blessings, recognize their strengths, and allow imperfection. “He is wealthy but I am healthy.” “She is good-looking but I am hard-working.” Individuals undoubtedly could extract satisfaction, an indispensable ingredient of happiness, from such monologues.
Both upward and downward comparisons enable us to achieve self-fulfillment and have a contented mind. But comparing ourselves with others contributes to something more significant—social harmony. By comparing ourselves with others inferior to us, we may find ourselves embraced with fortune, and feel sympathetic to those underprivileged, therefore lending a helping hand; By comparing ourselves with the experienced, the intelligent, and the genuinely benevolent, we may turn out stronger, wiser, and kinder—thus making this world a better place.
Admittedly, undue comparison can be perilous, leading to a dark road of jealousy and self-loss. However, comparing oneself with others is to our mindset what electricity is to our daily life. There will be more delight in life where there is electricity. But it is sufficient sunshine that makes everything worthwhile—from the sunshine in our heart sprouted the comparison, and from that comparison came a seed, and from that seed has grown a tree of self-actualization and gratification, a tree that now blossoms with mutual respect and understanding.