Creating confidence in
your first impression
Now that you have completed the Can you see the real me?
questionnaire you’re probably thinking a lot more about the first
impression you make when you meet new people.
Whether you scored 100% or 25%, there are always ways to
improve your first impression. Did you know that people
will form an opinion about you within the first few seconds
of meeting you? This will be based on your body language,
mannerisms, demeanor, style and conversational skills.
Although this may sound daunting it’s important to remember
that there are so many ways you can improve each of these
areas so you can feel confident that you’re ...view middle of the document...
But even the most beautiful nail varnish can never
compare with the diamond.
Here’s a concept for you: each of us is a flawless,
sparkling diamond. But because not everyone operates
out of a place of love, we encounter fear in the form
of insult, bullying, control, envy, jealousy, judgment,
rejection, unkindness or even hatred. This, and our own
egotistical responses, heaps doubt and insecurity on
us, and we can think of this as horse manure all over our
precious diamond. Obviously, we don’t want to show
If you can let your diamond break through, you’ll be
your true self, and that will make an outstanding first
impression! When you let your special qualities and
traits shine out, you’ll naturally attract people who you’ll
enjoy being with, too. Do this short exercise if you want
to make this idea work for you. It’s an ideal starting
point before moving on to Confidence Building Basics.
What makes up your horse manure?
See left for explanation
What is the nail varnish lik
behind when you fear judgm
This is the façade you hide
sionalism, or coolness.
rejection. Examples are shy
Describe your diamond.
Go on – this isn’t about vanity. It’s just the truth.
What would be so terrible about showin
g your diamond?
How could you be more your diamond
and less your
2. Confidence building basics
There must be a million things you could do to build your confidence, but here are three simple exercises
and habits you can use to be the most self-assured version of yourself.
If you follow these basic rules, you can be sure you’re on the right path to being a well-liked person.
How many of these can you honestly say you already do?
Be yourself – such an old saying, but true. It simply
requires too much energy to be something you’re
not. If you can’t be yourself, you might be with
the wrong people, or need the gremlins exercise
Don’t try to be a comedian/party animal/super
clever if it isn’t naturally you - yes, just like the first
on this tick list, but these are the classic ones to get
Take pride in your appearance
Take time to do your hair, makeup and nails. There’s
nothing more satisfying than pampering yourself you’ll instantly get a confidence boost and will reap
the benefits all day. For a special treat, why not
book yourself in to a spa for a treatment!
Choose a perfume you like and wear it every day.
Even keep a small bottle in your handbag for topups. Research shows that pleasant scents can help
you feel positive and attractive; increasing your
sense of wellbeing. See It’s All in the Nose: Fact
sheet on Smell for more information.
Be truthful. You’ll have less to remember.
Ensure you look your best – it gives oodles of