Boys' Antisocial Behavior
In almost any college class you walk into you will find that there are more female students than male. This wasn't the case years ago. David Thomas' article " The Mind of Man" points out that women are progressing readily in today's society, but where are the men?
Years ago men were the only ones permitted into colleges. But as time went by people's ways of thinking changed dramatically. People began to realize that girls were not getting the education boys were, and things had to be changed. I think of this change, that society made, as a pendulum. Years ago, the pendulum hung to one side. The side of boys' education. This side completely dismissed girls ...view middle of the document...
Today's society is vastly different from that of years past. Years ago, elementary teachers, along with everybody else in society, put more emphasis on boys' education. This is understandable if we recall that at that time men were the ones who were working and running the show, while the womans' job was to stay home and tend to the children. At that time boys were treated fairly in the school system. The boys' behaved rowdy and aggressive as boys do, but the teachers accepted it, to an extent, because they understood that boys will be boys and that this was their natural behavior. The boys would outgrow their anti-social behavior in due time. Unfortunately this isn't the case in today's society. The society of today rewards feminine behavior and frowns upon what is considered masculine behavior. Many female teachers, having been influenced by society, unconsciously frown upon the behavior of their male students constantly. Thomas says that "there is a direct response between a child's academic achievement and a favorable response from the teacher ." (122) If this is true, which I believe it is, what messages are teachers giving to boys when their behavior is constantly being criticized.
Today's society does not know how to tolerate kids' behaviors. For some reason we expect all boys and girls to behave like small adults. We are not allowing them to act their age; we expect them to grow up too fast. This is especially the case for boys since they are naturally more loud and aggressive than girls. Unfortunately girls are favored in the classroom because of their appropriate behavior. Boys lose out here because it isn't in their nature to act like girls, being quiet and passive. The first thing a teacher must realize in order to treat his/her students fairly is that boys and girls are naturally different.
The differences between boys and girls can be identified even when they are toddlers. When a person sees a pretty doll in a pink dress or a little purse with bows on it, or cute hats with flowers on them, the first thing that comes to mind is a little girl. Likewise, when a person sees toy cars, and sports equipment a boy comes to mind. I think there's a reason we associate these toys with the gender we do. I don't think it is something taught, rather I believe boys and girls are born with a different type of programming. There's a reason why pretty things attract girls, and a reason why rowdy things attract boys. Of course there are some exceptions to the rule but for the most part this is the way it is.
I see this common girlish behavior in my daughter of 14 months. My daughter has never seen older girls playing, nor am I a "girlish" type of person, but somehow she does all the stereotypical "girlish" things imaginable. Ever since she began to walk, she carries dolls around, loves pink things, and puts hats or pots on her head and goes to smile at herself in a mirror. She doesn't like to play roughly and she likes cuddling up to...