My biggest paradox in my life is not so old. In fact it entered it became a problem about a year ago. But first let me explain what a paradox is. A paradox is “a statement or proposition that despite sound (or apparently sound) reasoning from acceptable premises, leads to a conclusion that seems senseless logically, unacceptable, or self- contradictory.” Soon after I turned nineteen I met the girl of my dreams at a dance club in downtown Hartford. The night I met her happens to be one of the most memorable and unexpected nights of my entire life. That led us to hang our more and more after that night, it was not long before we became ...view middle of the document...
As for me I thought it was about the girls I did not know. In thinking that I frustrated her because to her it should have been common sense. This is another difference in our maturity levels; I was still thinking it was okay to like bikini pictures all over social media. I mean there's nothing wrong with it but there is no reason to do it all over social media. All she wanted was for me to not embarrass her
Emotionally I became distraught because I wanted to do right by her but I didn’t know how. I did not fully understand what the problem was and because of that are goals may have been the same but the way we went about reaching them and our understanding of them were different. I became emotionally distraught and it started to affect me physically when we would constantly fight and argue. It was the worst because most of the time it always resulted in threats of us breaking up and her telling me I was too immature for a relationship. This was unimaginable how could I love someone so much and still find ways to hurt them, make them not want to be with me? Why was this happening to me? What was it that she wanted from me that I wasn’t fixing already? Did we have the same values was she that much more knowledgeable than I was? After going through many of times of trying to earn her trust back and losing it for stupid things I finally realized what the problem was.
In order to help my relationship get better and grow I had to figure out what my problem was. I needed to understand myself before I could try and understand her...