In task K i described how i would go about striking up a relationship with young people:
As I hand mugs of hot chocolate to students I smile at each student, make eye contact and ask each ‘how was your day?’ conversations are brief until the hot chocolate runs out. Now whilst forced to wait I ask more open questions such as ‘what did you get up to today?’ or ‘what did you like about school today?’ or ‘what would you do with this space if we had all the money in the world?’
I ask their names and one girl in particular likes to chat.
I asked if I could sit with them and noticed there was a pack of cards on the table.
I sat near one of the girls and asked whether she’d had a good day. She ...view middle of the document...
Building relationships with children is different to building relationships with young people. Children will tend to be very keen to share whatever is happening in their loves with you. A good start is to ask them their name and share yours with them. To show your interest in them you could tell them how pretty their name is or explain that you have a friend/relation with the same name as them. Children deal better with specific questions eg ‘how’s your week going’ is too vague/big to tackle. However a question like ‘thats a nice blue sticker, did someone give that to you for something special?’ will give them something to talk about that is important to them. Some children will want to tell you everything that is going on in their lives as soon as they realise you want to listen. However others will be more shy. With a shy child it is important to show your interest without forcing them to speak if they feel uncomfortable. Be ready to keep a light conversation going and offer to sit down and read a book or join in an activity with the child. This will show your interested in them and help build up a relationship even if they are unwilling to chat to begin with. Appropriate touch can be important with young children eg allowing them to sit on your lap or holding their hand if you’re walking together.
Building relationships with adults is different again. Relationships are much more complex built on trust, respect, understanding and love....