Fuch's The American Way Of Families: Is The Dream Really As Sweet As Apple Pie?

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Fuch's "The American Way of Families": Is the Dream Really as Sweet as Apple Pie?

     There were a few aspects of Lawrence H. Fuchs's essay The American Way
of Families that I found extraordinarily interesting. He discusses influences
of the modern American family that I found quite bizarre. Fuch also labels the
key component to the American family as being none other than the gratification
and pursuit of one's own self being. The most bizarre thing that overcame after
reading this piece was that I found myself to be in total agreement with Fuch.
That is what scared me. I realized that something that is supposed to be so
stable in one's own life is ...view middle of the document...

For instance, suppose that in a
family that consisted of two college graduates in the role of parent, were faced
with a child (that they brought up with all of their values and good intentions)
that suddenly decides that he or she wants to move to Hollywood to become a rock
star. It is almost by instinct that these parents will not approve of their
child's decision. They do not want to lie about what their child is doing when
their friends(who coincidentally all have children in college) ask, "Hey, what's
Johnny and Sally up to theses days?" Quite to the contrary, most parents want
to be able to tell their friends straight in the eye that their kid is going to
school to learn to be a doctor just like them. When Fuch mentioned in his piece,
"In America a new kind of family system emerged, based on the search of
individual members for personal independence.", I realized that he was talking
about my family and every other family in America. It soon dawned upon me at
this point that in America each member of a household has his or her own agenda
and we set out to fulfill it any expense; even by going astray from our very own
     Another aspect of The American Way of Families struck me as very odd.
Not once in all of Lawrence Fuch's essay is the word "love" implied or written.
I believe that this emotion does not exist the same way today that it was in
generations past. Now in the nineties, love has its terms, limits and even
legal boundaries. No longer in America is the love between a mother and child
sacred. This was evident in the past year when a judge in Florida granted a
child there a divorce from his parents. The word love was not mentioned in this
essay because it is not able to be mixed with independence. Love in my opinion
is a codependence between two people. At this point I began to wonder if love
even existed anymore in the American Family. Here I was reading an essay on the
modern American family written by an esteemed expert on the subject and he
happened to forget to include the meaning of love in a family. Its importance
must have fell wayside to the philosophies of great poets such as Ralph Waldo
Emerson And Henry David Thoreau and their respective contributions to the
mannerisms of the...

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