An overly proud person looks down on people and as long as he looks down, he cannot see that which is above him. On the other hand, an individual with too little pride has an attitude of mediocrity and this hinders self-realization. Disproportionate pride blinds moral judgment, creates intolerance and deters relationships. Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin is a novel that portrays individual characters who demonstrate a lack of balance in the way they perceive themselves and as a result they create ruin.
Pride and Prejudice tells the most cherished love stories that take place in the small English village of Longbourne, England, and it is primarily the story of relationships ...view middle of the document...
Elizabeth’s aloofness further hinders her from developing a relationship with Darcy. Darcy continues to be enamored by Elizabeth’s charm and he does not stop pursuing her even though excessive pride causes Elizabeth to discourage him from her. In response to Elizabeth’s conceit Darcy who is generally polite does however become rude and haughty to Elizabeth as a defense mechanism. As a result of Elizabeth’s haughtiness, Darcy’s positive character is stymied and can only reveal itself in the middle of the novel (Nardin, 6).
Elizabeth’s snobbish pride hinders her from understanding her friend Charlotte Lucas’s best interests in regard to her desire to marry Mr. Collins. Elizabeth “prides herself on being a perceptive “studier of character,” as Mr. Bingley calls her, but how well does she really know her very good friend Charlotte…” when she “responds with amazement and horror” upon hearing that Charlotte wants to marry a man who is “dull”, “pompous” and “physically unattractive”. Elizabeth’s excessive pride blinds her from recognizing that Charlotte is “not much interested in men and very much interested in marriage” (Moler, 26). Elizabeth could have ruined the prospects of Charlotte’s marriage because of her self-importance in the way she misinterprets her friend’s romantic needs.
Elizabeth who goes through much agonizing distress in her relationship with Darcy ultimately admits that she had a lack of self -knowledge and clouded judgment due to excessive pride. Elizabeth cries out “how despicably have I acted... I who have valued myself on my own abilities! ...vanity not love has been my folly” (Austen, 208). Elizabeth who is “shocked and humiliated into the knowledge of her moral blindness and its causes” (Ibid, 209) is finally able to recognize Darcy’s real character and the good side of him which she has never been able to appreciate because of her own lack of balanced pride. It is only through the recognition of the need to achieve her own clarity of self -perception, that Elizabeth is ready to begin a healthy relationship with Darcy.
Fitzwilliam Darcy also demonstrates a lack of balance in the way he perceives his esteem and as a result, he creates ruin in his relationship with Elizabeth. Darcy was so selfish and arrogant towards Elizabeth in respect to showing his admiration for her that he was “particularly careful that no sign of admiration should now escape him, nothing that could elevate her (Elizabeth) with the hope of influencing his felicity” (Moler, 23). Elizabeth rejects Darcy’s proposal because he, “scarcely spoke ten words to her” and instead pompously keeps his head in a book without even looking at Elizabeth (Austen 60-61). Darcy’s rudeness deters him from achieving his intended proposal to marry Elizabeth.
Darcy’s arrogance not only ruins his own proposal, but his haughty advice also keeps his dear friend Bingley from proposing to Elizabeth’s sister, Jane Bennet. Darcy’s “pride in rank and...