As a 25 year-old young man I have experienced two emotionally challenging relationships while although different, (with different people) each shared commonalities that ran the gamut from hopelessly in love to borderline disgust. Being in love is one of the greatest emotions a person can feel. When youâ€™re in love you hope that feeling never goes away; however, once you fall out of love you tell yourself never again. Well, at least thatâ€™s true for me.
Seven years ago, I met a met a girl who I thought was the epitome of elegance and taste. After getting to know more about her, we began to bond in ways that were unimaginable to me prior to our meeting. As the weeks turned into months and the months turned into years, I just knew that she was the one with whom I ...view middle of the document...
However, one day she told me she no longer wanted to be with me. â€œItâ€™s not you, itâ€™s me. I think we need some time apart to re-evaluate the direction this relationship is heading in.â€ These were the words she used to end the five years we had been together. I have never had a bag of cinder blocks dropped on me, but after that day I think I may have known what it felt like. It seemed like my world had been turned upside down. I couldnâ€™t tell my right from left and I was an emotional wreck.
Fast forwarding to the present, it has been two years and several meaningless relationships later, and I find myself back in a similar situation. Same issues, different girl. She is also smart, beautiful, caring, affectionate, and goal orientated. Yet, once again she is what I envision as the epitome of elegance and taste, but I am observing similar characteristics in her that caused my last relationship to fail. She, like my last girlfriend, also has the tendency to overreact, a willingness to argue, and a vindictive nature. I know that Iâ€™m falling for this girl, but I know I donâ€™t have the emotional strength to put up with all of the negatives that I experienced in my last relationship. My heart is telling me to stick around because things will get better, but my brain is telling me to do the logical thing and part ways before I get hurt again. It feels to me like Iâ€™m stuck in between a rock and a hard place
In conclusion, I feel that I may be in a rush when it comes to my relationship status both past and present. I should take the time and put forth the effort to slow things down and get to know the individual more as a person, and evaluate any lingering questions or doubts that could possibly change my views and perspective.