English 101 / Ms. Drew
Essay # - Personal Narrative
My unexpected love
Sometimes we come across a person who changes our whole perspective of life for better or worse. My was when I meet this guy and felt that spark when you meet that someone that could be “the one”.As I sat with my closest friend Andrea on our routine of going to Starbucks one Saturday evening, the suspense at the table didn’t go unnoticed. Prior to our meeting, I had mentioned that I had some news to share. As the words tumbled from my mouth, she gave me ‘the look’.
“The guy that I am dating has a child” “He has what?” Andrea asked. “As in a product of him?” she added dryly. ...view middle of the document...
Eh… I was up for the challenge, and decided to give it shot. Obviously, there are several issues that came across towards me with someone that has a child. Will he put me first? Do I think I'll get jealous when I have to share him, and can’t throw a tantrum because I'll ‘look bad’ for being jealous of his child? Will my plans get rescheduled at the last minute, because something came up with his child or because of a situation with the other parent? Will I have to deal with the ‘chile mother’? Can my significant other manage any possible drama? What about keeping two women happy? You know, trying to pacify the mother so his relationship with his child isn’t affected, and keeping me comfortable. And let’s be real, what about feeling secure about my relationship when I see him with her and their child, looking like a happy family unit? Having to deal with the ‘chile mother’ may not be my cup of tea, but this is one of the things I may have to do while I'm dating this guy. Having only exchanged brief, common courtesies via phone with my guy’s ex, I can say that it is necessary for me to be cordial in this situation, because I’ll be interacting with her child as well. In my case, we haven’t really had any tension thus far. All women aren’t the same and not every ex will bring drama or real ‘tote’ because of her child present relationship. These women, however, do happen to be a minority. Fact is there are many people out there who have a child with their ex. It is a reality that single people have to face. Coming to terms with it depends on what the single (and childless) individual is willing to accept, all in the name of love and finding ‘the one’. Based on my experience, I’ll say that being open minded to a situation like this can be rewarding. I could actually find a great person who shares common interests, goals and views with me. My guy possesses the main characteristics I usually go for, smart, sensitive, ambitious etc. I also get to witness the type of dad he really is, and he handles his role and responsibilities as a father well. He is absolutely in love with his child, and that makes him even more attractive to me. Seeing a man love and care for his child genuinely is a beautiful thing. I bear in mind that dating someone with a child would initially lead to me meeting the child, and having to build a relationship with her, not to mention gaining her trust as well. Now it may seem rather funny, but I’ll admit that I...