Sense of Belonging in Our Society
Fashion is one of those things that people can claim they don't care about. They can defend again and again that it doesn't matter what one wears, it's the person who wears it. But in all likelihood they will continue to be judged, as we all are, for the clothes on our body, the shoes on our feet and the hairstyle we are sporting.
In one journal entry I wrote, I brought to light that the popular group is something that every one of us, for some reason feels as though we need to be a part of. This is from my own experience and things I have observed throughout my four-year career in high school. I think it was perhaps worse in ...view middle of the document...
I wasn't sure if it was going to be like high school where I fell into a certain group because of what I wore. Turns out my closest friends in college indeed do fit the same strange pattern that my high school friends and I possessed. I first learned this through our first mall outing. Myself, my roommate and one of the girls from our floor drove up to Crossgates mall when we had all gotten our work-study checks and decided we needed to spend them. And me being the only one from the Capital District knew exactly what stores I wanted to go in at Crossgates mall. Turns out they really liked the same stores I did, or agreed with me that that store was to expensive or that store has good sales in the back, they knew. It's so strange to me that I can still find the same type of people. I wonder, what draws us to each other, how do I continue to find people like me, people even from different states!
And it's not all about fashion either; these people have the same morals and values as me for the most part, which is even more interesting. Is it our family upbringing? I was raised in a very Irish, Catholic household, as a few of these girls were, maybe that's one factor. Another factor I guess could be social class. We are all basically from middle, working class families; we all have chores and part-time jobs and have to pay for our own car insurance or little things like that.
To further my interest on this subject, I thought it was best to take a little survey of a few girls that I have become friends with since I got here, and compare them to myself. My results shocked me more then I thought they would.
I asked eight girls a series of four questions. All these girls are 18 years old and live on my floor, excluding my RA who is older, but also answered the questions. I chose these certain girls for a reason, I have grown comfortable around them, and they are people who I would call my friends. My hypothesis was that girls my age are drawn to people who have the same types of fashion as them. It turns out I was correct for the most part.
Question one was, "Do you feel you are stereotyped or judged by what you wear"? The responses were six yes's, one somewhat and one definite no. The I asked the yes's to explain why they had answered this way, they all answered basically the same, they felt that people were more likely to talk to them if they were dressed nicely and on the other hand if they were dressed comfortably they were looked at like they were slobs. One girl said, "I believe that clothes are a way that people first view each other for example if you see someone walking down the street in something nice, I would feel more comfortable approaching them than someone who was dressed like a thug". One girl brought up the fact that she is Puerto Rican and dark skinned, therefore when she is all dressed up in her thug clothes people tend to be a little frightened and that ...