Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others. They say that it takes 10,000 hours to become an expert in something. As such, I should have earned beyond a doctorate degree in the art of being single. Now, while I am far from an expert in anything, there are few things I’ve learned while being single that it seems some people fail to notice. In my research, I learned some important truths and beauty about being single.
Being single gives you time to be by yourself, with yourself. A “me time" perhaps. This is the time to reconnect with myself, a time where I can talk to myself, debating all the questions and answers that are bouncing in my head. Change can sometimes ...view middle of the document...
Staying open to love isn’t just about attracting a new relationship; it’s about being open to life. Even if you’re single, you still have so much to appreciate.
You’re not alone when you’re single; you still have family and good friends. They are my sanity and my light. And being single, I have even more time to devote to being there for them. Sometimes being in a relationship can make you lazy about developing yourself. You can get so comfortable that your goals take a back seat. When you’re single, it prompts you to look deep inside yourself and identify the person you really want to be—whether you’re in a relationship or not. I found a lovely quote through internet, “To see a rainbow, one has to pass a storm.” When something bad happens, we tend to concentrate on the negatives, forgetting that there must be something positive hidden somewhere in the havoc. You will know happiness in the future—and in the present, if you’re open to it. Life is a balance. When there is darkness there will be light. I believe that everything in life is a process. When something dramatic and fast hits us, it will take time to process it and start over.
As part in singlehood I still have a lot to learn, understand, and explore. I sometimes need to be reminded to be grateful for what I have. As we all know, these words are easier said than practiced. So I hold onto one important idea that I’d like to leave you with. Change comes from within. You alone have to decide if you want that change. Keep at it, trust me you will find happiness. Good things happen to good people. It can be intimidating but it’s all about putting yourself out there and getting out of your comfort zone. Persistence is the key. Learn to love yourself first. Learn to laugh like there’s no tomorrow. It’s all in self belief.