The Art Of Overthinking
Have you ever kept yourself awake at night wondering “what if?” or “could I have done something different?” I spend most of my nights doing the very same. I stare at my bedroom celling or sometimes into space thinking back on events that took place in the past. For hours I would contemplate everything and replay all my shortfalls over and over. Eventually my mind exhausts and I dozed off. Overthinking. This is a term used by many people to describe this stage of self-loathing or self-doubt.
The way the mind works has always intrigued me, so I decided to do some research. As it turns out, I am not the only one with this problem, I am not the only one ...view middle of the document...
When you have made a decision to do something and it is a high risk high reward situation things could get a little tense. Say you finally muster up the courage, and ask out the girl you like. Finally when you do it she turns you down. Or on the flip side, you like this girl and want to ask her out. However every chance you get, you bail because you are scared of the outcome. After a while, this same girl gets asked out by someone else and again you are left stranded and without a clue what to do. Either of these could put you in a position in which you start to question yourself. This leads to stage two.
Stage two is a phase in when you constantly think back to what happened and think of all the ways you could have changed it or all the opportunities you missed. You will end up doing anything and everything to distract yourself from what is going on in your head. However the second you are alone with your thoughts all these doubts and regrets come flooding back.
The mind is a tricky place. When it is idle it takes you back into it’s darkest corners and makes you relive the pain you once felt over and over again. Ezra Taft Benson once said, “Some of the greatest battles will be fought within the silent chambers of your own soul.” This line describes the hurt that is felt after missing out or losing something. But as he said in his quote it is a “battle”, and like all other battles, it can be won.
Past regrets are never easy to deal with and a wondering mind makes it even harder. I found that if I allow myself to stay in the past I will miss out on the present. The only way to get over the Achilles heel that is overthinking is to take a deep breath and remember that the past is in the past and the future is unknown, but the present is where life is to be lived.