You are the parent of a 16-year-old boy. You come home and find the door ajar. Inside, you discover your son’s friend looking in a kitchen drawer. He says he is trying to leave your son a note. On the counter next to him is a lock pick and some of your jewelry. The boy smells of marijuana. You tell the boy to leave immediately and he does. Do you call the police, call the boy’s parents, tell your son, or do something else?
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I am the parent of a boy who is 16 years old. One day I came home to find that his friend was inside our home when no one was home. The door ...view middle of the document...
Unless he was writing to inform my son as to why he wreaked of marijuana, was inside my home, owned a lock pick and laid it down beside jewelry of mine that he found on the counter I do not take much solace in the story that I have been given. After my suggestion that the boy leave and with his immediate compliance I am less of an optimist as to his reasoning for seemingly breaking into my home.
From this point a decision needs to be made. Does that decision involve informing the police? This is one that I am still unsure of. The boy is a friend of my son and to my knowledge has never been in any sort of trouble of this nature whatsoever. If I choose to involve the police in a matter that a simple conversation or directional advice may correct the implications of the consequences that this could lead to for the boy’s future could be dire. I would say that at this point in time we make a decision to not include the police because this seems like a rash and hasty decision. The boy is still a child and a child will make mistakes. If we abandon the child at the first mistake they make then the child could be lost forever. To include the police immediately would seem like a way to discourage the child instead of guiding him. The boy could have personal circumstances or troubles that he simply needs help with. To rush to involve the police in a matter that could easily be solved with a conversation or extending a hand to help seems like an unwise choice. For this reason, we do not involve the police at this stage. If the child chooses to make this mistake again, then we may consider the police involvement as a necessary option to help the child.
Do we inform the parents of the boy? Absolutely. We immediately phone the parents of the boy and tell them that we need to have a conversation about their son and it would be best if we have the conversation in person. You do not do the boy a favor by not informing his parents in this situation and you do not help the parents help the boy by keeping this from them. The parents will be upset and they are going to be concerned and by having this conversation in person you show them that you are not attacking their son but are doing it as means to help them and him. You need to do this in person to disable their defensiveness and to better elude them to the situation that you walked in on. When you are speaking to them you do not accuse their son of anything, because you do not know anything. You know what you seen, you know what you walked into, you know what the boy was doing when you caught him and you know what he smelled of. You are not in a position to point fingers or accuse the boy, this boy is a friend of your son and you are concerned about his well being. It is not your responsibility to discipline this child it is the responsibility of his parents. You, however, have a responsibility to your son and your family and their safety.
Do you tell your son? Yes you...